I even tried to do things to bring a little more fun to the bedroom.. There was no way my heart was prepared to hear any likes of that! We have had our share of struggles our entire marriage… I blame myself for marrying him in the first place when the warning signs were everywhere. Even in intimate times, actually especially in intimate times, there are thousands of women between us, making me feel compared, making me feel settled for, making me feel like nothing special to him…just another one. Only those in recovery, after considerable willingness and effort, can begin to unravel the denial and fathom the deep wounds they have inflicted on any level. And just like masturbation, it's a totally normal, generally solo, activity that doesn't have a thing to do with your current relationship. He removed the material and threw it out.
These kind of apologetics are meant to break through that line of thinking, but not to be an end in and of themselves as no article is meant to be. Let me translate what all the men who excuse porn are actually saying…. Very sick. I don't think that's cheating.
His reactions would be normal, and justified even, but that in itself does not serve to de facto render your actions immoral. Only love and grace. Cheating, in the conventional sense means to act in contravention of commitments. It was a few days after our anniversary. Masturbating in itself is not a bad thing but obsessive masturbating is and you should seek help for that.
I was this way before when physically being a cheater, super defensful trying to find wya s to support my behavior. I continued to not want any physical contact with him… nor his eyes. Women cheat just as much and are doing most of the porn our there. I wanted to be enough. Image: CSA Plastock. In the original argument, he states that pornography is getting off at the expense of somebody else, I say BS! Using shame to correct shameful experiences is paradoxically misguided and unfortunate.